Saturday, September 1, 2007

It's a Girl!

Karrots
8 pounds, 12 ounces
21 inches

Born at 2:36am Aug. 31st
at Whittier Hospital Medical Center
No drugs!


Getting her first bath from daddy!


Real quick, we ended up at the hospital because of dehydration (I couldn't keep anything down!)...More to come later!

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Labor Update

Well, it hasn't quite gone as we hoped. I started with contractions last night around 10:15 and tried to sleep. Some time after 1am I woke Big Red up as they were coming 3:30 apart and steady. I called Daja, who is going to be our doula, and let her know. After a couple hours we packed another bag and headed to my parents.

When we got here, around 4:30/5 this morning, I hoped to be able to get some sleep and did. As I cannot lay down during contractions I've been napping sitting up while my loving hubby has the bed. I had to start trying to sleep between contractions. I'd fall asleep only to wake up a few minutes later and check the clock and then drift off again. Eventually I was able to sleep a little heavier. Once we got up my contractions had stopped. I've been bleeding all day and more recently it's also been mucus so, yeah! I think I'm dialating!

We went for a walk, but it was so hot out and Big Red didn't have his sunscreen on so we ran by the coffee shop for a boba smoothie and headed home. I just woke up from a nap and had a number of contractions 5 minutes apart.

Thanks to all of you who we've called and who have been praying for us. We were quite shocked that the contractions began so close together. We were expecting maybe 15 minutes apart, not 3! All day they've come and gone regularly from between 3 to 5 minute increments. Soon! Very soon we'll be holding Junior and let you all know the answers to questions we've all been waiting for - gender and size!

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Quick Update

Big Red and I went walking tonight and when we got back I had some pink "show." It's getting closer!

From in the Womb...

A friend of mine posted this as a bulletin on myspace. It was called, "I Bet I Could Make You Cry."

Hi Mommy!
I am only 8 inches long, but I have all my organs.
I love the sound of your voice.
Every time I hear itI wave my arms and legs.
The sound of your heart beatis my favorite lullaby.

Month Two
Mommy, today I learned how to suck my thumb.
If you could see me you could definitely tell that I am a baby.
I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though.
It is so nice and warm in here.

Month Three
You know what Mommy?
I'm a boy!!
I hope that makes you happy.
I always want you to be happy.
I don't like it when you cry.
You sound so sad.
It makes me sad too and I cry with you even though you can't hear me.

Month Four
Mommy, my hair is starting to grow.
It is very short and fine, but I will have a lot of it.
I spend a lot of my time exercising.
I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes and stretch my arms and legs.
I am becoming quite good at it too.

Month Five
You went to the doctor today.
Mommy, he lied to you.
He said that I'm not a baby.
I am a baby Mommy, your baby.
I think and feel.
Mommy, what's abortion?

Month Six
I can hear that doctor again.
I don't like him.
He seems cold and heartless.
Something is intruding my home.
The doctor called it a needle.
Mommy what is it? It burns!
Please make him stop!
I can't get away from it!
Mommy! HELP me!

Month Seven
Mommy, I am okay.
I am in Jesus's arms.
He is holding me.
He told me about abortion.
Why didn't you want me Mommy?

Every Abortion Is Just . . .
One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.

Craziness and Coincidence!

So, my new found friend, Christy, emailed me today about a birth place in Chino. She's working there today and told the midwife about all this craziness that's been going on with Simona and the pickle we've found ourselves in. The midwife there, Lori, offered to have us birth at her place (http://oakshouse.spaces.live.com/).

I emailed Christy our birth plan and asked if Lori could look it over. She did and doesn't understand any reason Simona wouldn't agree with it all. It seems the place is a little more expensive, but Lori was a bit confused as to how Simona billed and we wouldn't have to pay the entire amount as it would just be for the birth.

Also, I mentioned that Simona would be out of town this weekend and mentioned that she had a midwife from England filling in for her. Lori asked if it was Maria King and mentioned that she is more "medical" than Simona, which is why at least one other midwife partner of hers let her go. Now I'm REALLY interested to find out who this fill-in is!

I forwarded on Christy's offer to my hubby and he wants to play it by ear. I looked up the directions to Oaks House and found it's practically down the street from my second family (the kids I babysat and are now sister to). To me, it seems like all of this is falling into place. If the baby waits to come after our appointment on Thurs. I'm becoming convinced that Lori will be the person to call! Of course, Big Red's convincement may depend on the appointment.

By the way, Lori is a Christian and her center is the parish at a church. Wow! No wonder she's more "hands off" than Simona...she knows our Creator! To me there are just too many coincidences to ignore the open doors! I'll keep you all updated!

Monday, August 27, 2007

Due Date

I remember a workshop/address by Barbara Katz Rothman at one of the MANA conferences in the early 80's and she did a retrospective examination of the 40 week due date and discovered that the research that was done to determine this "fact" was conducted during the early 50's when most women were weight restricted (told only to gain 15 lbs or so) and salt restricted. Her point was that perhaps the data itself was based upon a sample that was not "normal" and that the research should be redone with women who are encouraged to eat health. She herself thought that pregnancy was more likely 41 or 42 weeks. I think this idea was then published in one of her books, but i don't have all of them, it might be a place to start looking though. (Gentlebirth)

Wait it out: Though nobody wants to be pregnant for 42 weeks,it is fairly common. Resist the temptation to induce labor just to get it over with. Monitor the baby´s condition, but as long as the baby and placenta are doing well, have faith that your baby will come in it´s own time. Too many women have induced only to find that their baby wasn´t quite ready to be born and therefore must struggle harder than necessary to make the transition to life outside the womb. (Life Tips)

Here is an Australian site with info on due dates as well. Most sites note that your due date is an ESTIMATE.

I also found this website that talks about the accuracy of ultrasounds in determining a due date...Funny - it gets less accurate the further along in pregnancy you are..."If a patient has good menstrual dates, and ultrasound measurements are within the expected variation, use the menstrual dates; if there are poor menstrual dates use the ultrasound gestational age. After 28 weeks there is a huge amount of variation in fetal size due to macrosomia and intrauterine growth restriction. With a certain LMP it is not a good idea to change the due date in the third trimester based on ultrasound measurements until the pregnancy has been fully evaluated."

Arg!

Big Red and I decided to cancel our midwife appointment for Tues. as we see no point in going. I, personally, don't want another vaginal exam as it won't tell me anything for sure and it can cause more bad than good, i.e. the bag of water breaking. Also, why would we need to go until the baby decides it's time or if there's a complication? The baby is moving freely, I'm eating well and drinking a lot of water.

I called Simona to ask if tomorrow we'd be meeting the midwife who'd be on duty while she is out and she said we wouldn't be meeting her until Thurs. So, why go in twice, right? Simona wants us to go to the hospital and have an NST (non-stress test) done since the baby is "overdue". I let her know we wouldn't want to be having the test. She wants us to write up some form signing off the test, that it would be measuring the fluid, that we know we're past due and KNOW our due date (i.e. when we conceived), don't want an induction of any kind, and that she explained about the possible presence of meconium and dangers of being post due - as she put it, "the baby could die." We'll fax that in tomorrow. She still wondered why I wouldn't be willing to drive myself after I mentioned that my husband would have to take two days off of work for this. Um, "I'm post due and don't want to be driving my self all the way out to Whittier with the posibility of my water breaking or going into contractions on the way."

My question - why don't doctors and midwives have to sign off on the interventions when they recommend it? I'd like to see a sheet in which a doctor has to sign off that they don't know for sure there are no side effects from ultrasounds and that there is a huge possibility that the ultrasound can give incorrect information and therefore would lead to a misdiagnosis (or change in due date). Also, a waiver that they informed us that the glucose test results come back often as false-positives and that they think it's healthy for a pregnant woman, this one time, to fast and drink a beverage that is loaded with sugar so the doctor has a reason to tell us to eat healthy, as if we shouldn't already know that.

While we're at it, how about a form on induction? Their form would say something along the times of informing us (to the point of us understanding) that induction would be forcing the baby out when he is obviously not ready to be born and may lead to lung problems and weeks in NICU; that the pitocin drips can, and most likely will, cause extremely more painful contractions than natural and timely contractions. Also, that the induction may cause fetal distress, the reason they quote for lining their pockets with money for administering pain medication, epidurals, and c-sections.

Ok, I've vented...for now...

Really quick - on meconium - our beloved friend told us a story of how a doctor, who found meconium in the amniotic fluid, recommended that the mother wait it out and drink plenty of water. I think they waited for a week. By their next meeting the fluid had cleared out, just like it's supposed to. Here's a site that quotes, "There is no such thing as a 'dry birth.' Approximately one third of the liquid is replaced every hour." Interesting...esp. to know in case my water breaks and someone claims I NEED to have the baby in 24 hours. Of course, their excuse is they want to avoid infection, which curiously is caused by them doing vaginal exams and shoving all the germs the liquid pushed out while gushing.

For real - I'm done venting...